Mothers, wives, sisters, girlfriends, women relatives and friends are very often accused of being ‘bossy’ or ‘nags’. Men, whom sons, and brothers take after, frequently use these terms in a derogatory way to put women off, or simply do so out of exasperation. Are they, in their very patriarchal mentality, justified in doing so? There is probably a reason for women to do this.
Most of the world is patriarchal and most of human kind appears to accept it without question, apart from a small number of women who understand, are aware of, and experience the obvious inequality with which they are so often treated. Daughters, in many cultures are treated like chattel. In some cultures, they are viewed as burdensome and ‘some thing’ (mind you) used as trade offs for economic wealth, status or debt payment. There are so many books in the market, particularly historical novels that adopt this concept of women. In life, this actually happens, kings used to ‘trade’ their daughters off as political currency to make alliances with other kingdoms to forge these political ties. Fathers sold their daughters in ‘marriage’ or concubinage to pay off debts owed to landlords, barons or any other creditor. This human trafficking of the female human has continued for thousands of years and is still being justified today by traditional conservatism, cultural and religious norms that seem to originate from a pagan practice of phallic worship.
So, Woman as chattel is like the dumb lamb taken to the slaughter. She is expected to accept any oppression, abuse, exploitation, or violation done to her without protest. In those dark ages of ignorance and imposed silence, girl children were brain-washed into thinking that it was their destiny and fate to serve men in any way, no matter how perverted their demands might be. She was degraded to a Thing, not a human being. Thus, women were never heard, never recognized as having the power to think, to articulate thoughts and ideas, to have as good (or better) an intellect as any male counterpart. She was never listened to, having been silenced into obscurity.
It still happens in this so-called modern or post modern age. If you see a group of men walking with a woman companion, the men are usually chatting among themselves, leaving the woman to walk in silence beside them. They may exchange a sentence or two with her, then return to chatting among themselves, forgetting her existence. If she attempts to comment, she often goes unheard or is simply habitually ignored.
So, why do women repeat themselves, often in seemingly loud and frustrated tones to men, that men term as being ‘bossy’ or ‘nagging’? Obviously, because men often fail to listen, ignore a woman as if what she says is usually unimportant, or are simply too chauvinistic and egotistic to pay attention. This happens, even if it is a matter of life and death. Men seem to think, they know everything or know best, which can in many instances be completely untrue, as they only seem to think in a one-dimensional way.
Next time, you want to call a woman a ‘Nag’ or ‘Bossy‘, open your ears and mind to what she is saying, it could save your life. There are aspects of life, only she sees, that men are not sensitive or humble enough to admit to, because of their overriding male ego!
Women are not men, yet as human beings have developed their own methods of survival. Like the rabbit, are cute and cuddly by nature, but become she-wolves when need arises.